Stop dying in silence

              STOP DYING IN SILENCE
A solid relationship is foundation for a good marriage and any marriage that must last the foundation must be solid one base on truth and understanding that is why its so important to know what you are entry into. Haven't said that I want to discussed something so important that our culture do ignored.
We found ourselves in side of continent that they take culture so serious and in a such setting it allowed only the men to do the talking is asking a lady out, in our side here especially Nigerians in Nigeria we expect the man to ask a lady out and not in other way round, but this is 21's century for crying out loud there are something we need to adjust if we don't want to left behind, do not mix quote me I'm not saying culture is not good but my dear read STOP DYING IN SILENCE go for what you want.
If a lady see a guy that she like there is nothing wrong in asking him out I mean absolutely nothing wrong after all there is no place where they write that God has compulsory that it must be the man job to do the talking alone but why you are about to approach the man HOPE for the best and PREPARE for the worst because not all lady that take such BOLD step that do come out with testimony but its better than to be dying in silence. But first and foremost before you take the bold step do consider some the sign and character listed below with seriousness and consciousness:
DO YOU LOVE HIM OR LUST AFTER HIM; seen a guy you like is not enough you must know and be sure of what you have for him it must be either love lust, are you having feeling for him because of his physical body like tall fair six pack etc, if that is what drive you towards him are his physical appearance alone then I will advice you not to take the bold step because its sure you are going to be the one to suffer for it at end of everything because all handsomeness do fade away its a matter of time before six pack turn to pot belly so never ever ask him out because of his physical features alone "that is lust and not love" on the other hand if its geniue love you must have being CONVINCED beyond a reasonable doubt and not CONFUSED because every bless day your love will be renew and not reduced you friendship in him must be increase not decrease and lastly your trust in him must continued to rise not diminishing.

ARE YOU AFTER WHAT HE DRIVE OR WHAT DRIVE HIM
If the main reason you like him and want ask him out his because of what he drive and not what drive him then you are inn for serious trouble, a virtues lady must know when her man to be is really a man enough or those one of boys out there think they are man. When all is fond of seen it all the time is "my latest wristwatches, my latest T-shirt and my latest car" and that is what make you crazy about him and you dreaming of becoming his future wife then i will like to inform you that you are digging grave for your corpse, because sooner or later his latest wrist watch is going to become old ,his latest shirt is going to become rag and his latest car is still going to become old and if par adventure you later marry him, his love for you will never stop him from continued to buy latest things that are in vogue and you going to be  suffer for it because he will never see it as his duty to provide shelter for you and your children and all that will occupied is mind is latest this and latest that and he will make sure he buy it at the expense of his family. But on the other hand if you are attract to him by what drive him like he's very hardworking caring gentle and above all he was so concern about the future than the present, such men do have a big dream and visions and it take a virtue lady that have similar vision to recognize such men and with that they are going to achieve greater things together. It must be what he's after and not what after him if he's a type of person that do borrow just to buy latest material things in vogue pls do not go for him.

DOES HE STAND FOR SOMETHING OR NOTHING
If you crush is the type of person that stand for nothing he's going to fall for everything and you don't even need any prophets to tell you that you don't need such men in your live .
Those guy that doesn't have a particular job, he does not go to school neither he learn any art work all he just know to do his for him wake up in the morning and get dress up just to go and seat in one corner of the street to hail the passer by so that they will give him a token and that is what he live on and you are crushing on that type of person my dear do not be surprise if you die of hunger in nearest future OR  are you a lady that have crush on type of man that only have jobs when election is coming up and they were use him as a political thug and because his godfather have giving him a small car with some change in his pocket and you fall for that prey that he has everything and know  influential people, I'm to tell you that  its you and nobody else that is going to suffer for your stupidity. When ever you are crushing on someone it must be of an independent person that works towards of achieving greatness in live. I'm not saying that man must have everything for now but make sure its someone that is working either a civil servant or self employed all his efforts might not yield any result for now but make sure he's working towards a brighter futures so that you won't regret in  nearest future.

DOES HE BELIEVED GOD OR BELIEVED IN GOD
There are two different things up there, those your man believed God or believed in God.
Believed in God means he just believe in God existence and not more such set people only remember to pray to God when they were in problem, they only go to church on rarely occasions and when they do so its because of their personal gains either to go meet up with their favourite artist that is coming up or because they want to go fix their eyes on ladies. In so many occasions their believed is only base on their strength and their qualification so they never believed in personal relationship with God. On the other hand those who believed God believed that without him they can do nothing they believe its by grace not by greatness, its by mercy not by merit. So everything they do or they become they own it to God such men don't take anything for granted even at point of chosen their life partner they do consult God before they do so, this type of men never relent in become a good example in their community where they live.
BONUS; Saying you have to voice out or dying in silence is not mean that you should be proposed to every tom and dick you meet you must set your standard and never act too desperate.
In such occasions you find your crush and you have the courage to take the bold step to ask him out NEVER because of that present yourself too cheap and don't stoop so low to accept every offer he proposed to you either positive or negative for instant if you are such that believe in no sex until marriage (which I encourage people to do) and he wanted you to indulge in pre marital sex because you are the one that proposed to him, my dear do stand your ground if he need you and surely meant for you he's going to wait for you and above all make God the first and last as your consultant if you are convince that is him then proceed by telling your spiritual leader then do some background finding about him and his family with all these and you are still convince that he's the one my dear readers please do go for him.
DON'T DIE IN SILENCE because if you fail to take the step now you might regret it later, so do go for what you want because culture is not going to live with you in future neither the families nor the community so don't let all this thing/people derives you of your joy by not take the bold step today.
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Written by AYEDERO OLAYEMI
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