Stop dying in silence

              STOP DYING IN SILENCE
A solid relationship is foundation for a good marriage and any marriage that must last the foundation must be solid one base on truth and understanding that is why its so important to know what you are entry into. Haven't said that I want to discussed something so important that our culture do ignored.
We found ourselves in side of continent that they take culture so serious and in a such setting it allowed only the men to do the talking is asking a lady out, in our side here especially Nigerians in Nigeria we expect the man to ask a lady out and not in other way round, but this is 21's century for crying out loud there are something we need to adjust if we don't want to left behind, do not mix quote me I'm not saying culture is not good but my dear read STOP DYING IN SILENCE go for what you want.
If a lady see a guy that she like there is nothing wrong in asking him out I mean absolutely nothing wrong after all there is no place where they write that God has compulsory that it must be the man job to do the talking alone but why you are about to approach the man HOPE for the best and PREPARE for the worst because not all lady that take such BOLD step that do come out with testimony but its better than to be dying in silence. But first and foremost before you take the bold step do consider some the sign and character listed below with seriousness and consciousness:
DO YOU LOVE HIM OR LUST AFTER HIM; seen a guy you like is not enough you must know and be sure of what you have for him it must be either love lust, are you having feeling for him because of his physical body like tall fair six pack etc, if that is what drive you towards him are his physical appearance alone then I will advice you not to take the bold step because its sure you are going to be the one to suffer for it at end of everything because all handsomeness do fade away its a matter of time before six pack turn to pot belly so never ever ask him out because of his physical features alone "that is lust and not love" on the other hand if its geniue love you must have being CONVINCED beyond a reasonable doubt and not CONFUSED because every bless day your love will be renew and not reduced you friendship in him must be increase not decrease and lastly your trust in him must continued to rise not diminishing.

ARE YOU AFTER WHAT HE DRIVE OR WHAT DRIVE HIM
If the main reason you like him and want ask him out his because of what he drive and not what drive him then you are inn for serious trouble, a virtues lady must know when her man to be is really a man enough or those one of boys out there think they are man. When all is fond of seen it all the time is "my latest wristwatches, my latest T-shirt and my latest car" and that is what make you crazy about him and you dreaming of becoming his future wife then i will like to inform you that you are digging grave for your corpse, because sooner or later his latest wrist watch is going to become old ,his latest shirt is going to become rag and his latest car is still going to become old and if par adventure you later marry him, his love for you will never stop him from continued to buy latest things that are in vogue and you going to be  suffer for it because he will never see it as his duty to provide shelter for you and your children and all that will occupied is mind is latest this and latest that and he will make sure he buy it at the expense of his family. But on the other hand if you are attract to him by what drive him like he's very hardworking caring gentle and above all he was so concern about the future than the present, such men do have a big dream and visions and it take a virtue lady that have similar vision to recognize such men and with that they are going to achieve greater things together. It must be what he's after and not what after him if he's a type of person that do borrow just to buy latest material things in vogue pls do not go for him.

DOES HE STAND FOR SOMETHING OR NOTHING
If you crush is the type of person that stand for nothing he's going to fall for everything and you don't even need any prophets to tell you that you don't need such men in your live .
Those guy that doesn't have a particular job, he does not go to school neither he learn any art work all he just know to do his for him wake up in the morning and get dress up just to go and seat in one corner of the street to hail the passer by so that they will give him a token and that is what he live on and you are crushing on that type of person my dear do not be surprise if you die of hunger in nearest future OR  are you a lady that have crush on type of man that only have jobs when election is coming up and they were use him as a political thug and because his godfather have giving him a small car with some change in his pocket and you fall for that prey that he has everything and know  influential people, I'm to tell you that  its you and nobody else that is going to suffer for your stupidity. When ever you are crushing on someone it must be of an independent person that works towards of achieving greatness in live. I'm not saying that man must have everything for now but make sure its someone that is working either a civil servant or self employed all his efforts might not yield any result for now but make sure he's working towards a brighter futures so that you won't regret in  nearest future.

DOES HE BELIEVED GOD OR BELIEVED IN GOD
There are two different things up there, those your man believed God or believed in God.
Believed in God means he just believe in God existence and not more such set people only remember to pray to God when they were in problem, they only go to church on rarely occasions and when they do so its because of their personal gains either to go meet up with their favourite artist that is coming up or because they want to go fix their eyes on ladies. In so many occasions their believed is only base on their strength and their qualification so they never believed in personal relationship with God. On the other hand those who believed God believed that without him they can do nothing they believe its by grace not by greatness, its by mercy not by merit. So everything they do or they become they own it to God such men don't take anything for granted even at point of chosen their life partner they do consult God before they do so, this type of men never relent in become a good example in their community where they live.
BONUS; Saying you have to voice out or dying in silence is not mean that you should be proposed to every tom and dick you meet you must set your standard and never act too desperate.
In such occasions you find your crush and you have the courage to take the bold step to ask him out NEVER because of that present yourself too cheap and don't stoop so low to accept every offer he proposed to you either positive or negative for instant if you are such that believe in no sex until marriage (which I encourage people to do) and he wanted you to indulge in pre marital sex because you are the one that proposed to him, my dear do stand your ground if he need you and surely meant for you he's going to wait for you and above all make God the first and last as your consultant if you are convince that is him then proceed by telling your spiritual leader then do some background finding about him and his family with all these and you are still convince that he's the one my dear readers please do go for him.
DON'T DIE IN SILENCE because if you fail to take the step now you might regret it later, so do go for what you want because culture is not going to live with you in future neither the families nor the community so don't let all this thing/people derives you of your joy by not take the bold step today.
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Written by AYEDERO OLAYEMI
©CoachFlowey

Ability to move on

When I started using Biro in my primary school,
and I made a mistake, I would try hard to erase it.
Sometimes I would use chalk, but later it would
reappear. So I began to use saliva, it worked only
to leave holes in my book. My teachers then used
to beat me for being outrageously dirty. But all I
tried to do was cover my errors. One day, a kind
hearted teacher who loved me so much called me
aside.
"Bobo, anytime you make a mistake, just cross it
and move on. Trying to erase it would only
damage your book".
"But, I don't want people to see my mistake and
laugh at me", I protested.
"Trying to erase it will make more people know
about your mess, and the stigma is for life"
Have you made a mistake, cross it and move on.
Don't try to create more irredeemable errors by
trying within your power to erase it, because
Mistake is bound to happened but the ability,
strength and power to cross it and move on
will definitely differentiate you from failure

Nothing wrong with the seed

NOTHING WRONG WITH THE SEED.
prov.8:14,ezek.18:2
Nothing wrong with the seed,check the ground you are sowing seed to: meaning there is nothing wrong with word of God will do hear  everyday but when there is no result check yourself and search your heart,do you prepare for his blessing
The main reason why some people are being bless everyday and some people can't even show forth result for their dedication to God work is not because God hate them or he didn't have plan for them ? No is just that majority of Christian nowadays are just church goers and do not have a pure heart to receive his blessing.
if you are a Christian and you are still carrying the mentality of generational curse, you still have a problems. If you are yet to be born again generational curse may affect you.
But if you are born again,generational curse can no longer have effect on remember what bible say IF YOU ARE IN CHRIST YOU ARE A NEW CREATURE AND OLD THINGS HAVE PASSED AWAY ALL THINGS BECOME NEW. Happy Sunday to you all.

The 3C's of life

         THE 3C's OF LIFE
In speaker sam book title keep simple keep it smart, he talk about 3C's of life which are CHANGE,CHANCE and CHOICE. well today in this my article I want to explain what each of them means and how they can make you and vice versa.

CHANGE: there is a quote that say "cause a change and lead accept change and live resist change and die"
what this imply is you have to make a change in your environment in your neighborhood and in the state also. You don't have to wait for someone to create a change, think out of the box create the change you want that is the only way to lead in every aspect of your live,if you wait for others to do it, you will only going to become their subordinate because that will be the only way to survive and if you refuse to follow change then you're gone.

Cause the change and lead your generation accept the change and survive resist change and die because whether you like it not change is the only constant thing in life.
If dangote have not make change he must have be in someone company as surbordnate, if mike adenuga have not make change probably he would have just be one of share holder in another telecommunication company sharing his idea for other just for a penny, if otedola have not make a change it might have be one of the manager in one of the leading oil companies and so many if's.
So dear reader get out of your comfort zone and cause the change you want.

CHANCE: like a quote also say "opportunity come but once" like wise chances, once chance present itself once and you fail to grab it you can't have that chance again but the good news is that different chance always present its self to us on daily basis it now left for us to make use of it or let it waste away.

Some even ask what are the chances or how can we recoginesd chances when we see one. Chances are opportunities that present itself for us every day like opportunities to be a leader teacher advocator instructor etc how ever to recognised chance when you see one is to be aware of what is lack in your immediate environment to be conscious of what your community need and you can provide for them with charges.

There is this one man name chukwu emeka by name after the civil war ended that left  many Nigerians homeless especially the Igbo's (no insult intended) this man will left Enugu for Lagos to buy salt in large quantity and return back to Enugu to sell it for them and under few day he has sold it off, do you know why?
It is because he was conscious of his environment and he know what they lack and what they can't do without in a day, he know they need a lot of materials things like clothes but he was able to discovered what is most important things at that time..
So what I my saying is to discovered what your community lack and find out what is urgent among it all.

Are you living in a crowded area with a lot of children you can start a coaching centre there, are you a computer guru you can start a computer repair business you don't even need huge capital all you just need is to create awareness.
Don't wait for chances create one by yourself, because if mark zukerberg wait for chance you and I won't have the opportunity to connect to our old lost friends on his Facebook he created and if jumia owner have wait for chance we might as well  not have the luxurious to buy phones and other electrical gadget  online. Mind you its only people that take the risk that do go far in life take risk of creating a chance today it might not pay off now but sonner or later you will reap bountiful from it if you stay focus and determined.

CHOICE: with all said above it is a choice weather you want to take the steps successful people take or otherotherwise, it is a choice to live right and it's a choice to be successful like a quote that say
" the choice you make can either made you or destroyed you"
its a choice weather you want to serve devil or God.
Are you still a student and you are looking for quick money without working or you are the one that do not want to read but want to have excellent result its a choice but mind you as you lay your bed that is how you are going to laid on it.

Obama made choice that is going to become America president and he won despite all challeges, Nelson Mandela made a choice that is going to set his people free even if it involve spending some yes behind bar and he achieve it. president Mohammed bhuari became civilian president of Nigeria after fourth attempt because he has choose to be associated with successful people and refuse to be call failure and Dora akuyili became most out standing performance in the history of Nigeria NAFDAC despite all odd against her just because she made the choice to help to flush out all bad drug in the market.
My dear reader's it will be your choice to become future obama or his cook it will be a choice to become next mike adenuga or his security man it is also a choice to be next bill gates or one of the user of his product, it will be your choice to be the next African richest person or one of his reader and finally it will be your choice to be the next celebrated person or his fans.
There is not excuse for you not to succeed in life because the only person that can stop you is yourself. So brothers and sisters, uncle and aunt, neiece and nephew made the CHOICE today to create the CHANCE and cause the CHANGE to be the next celebrated person globally.
      BY
AYEDERO OLAYEMI (coachFlowey)
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Don't feel inferior

If what you are doing presently  doesn't challenge you, then it  won't change you

Remember no one can make you feel inferior not even devil without your consent.

Nothing great has ever been achieved except by those who dared to believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances.